third date tips to make her want you

9 Third Date Tips To Make Her Want You

Hopefully you’re progressing nicely through the dates with the current woman in your life and here you find yourself at date number three. My third date tips will ensure that she’s willing and ready to take things to the next level.

For the first date there was probably just a mutual physical attraction and a curiosity to know more about each other. The second date is more interesting because at this point both of you have found something interesting and appealing about each other that you wish to pursue and know more about to see where it all leads.

The third date is a very important date because it determines a lot of things and it determines the direction your ‘relationship’ is heading. Are you going to progress to something a little more serious or are you just going to be friends (or never speak again 🙂 )?

Now, if you followed my guidance in this post on how to secure a second date kiss, you might already be there in your head. However, it’s still very early days and it’s never too late to mess it up by being too keen!

In my mind, I consider the third date the ‘make or break’ date. For some, this might sound too soon but I know what time I’m willing to invest in order to find out if I really like someone; for me that is three dates.

If you’re stuck for where to take her then check out my previous post on third date ideas and then head back over here for my top tips.

Third Date Tips

1) Kiss upon arrival

If you managed to kiss her on the second date (or even the first you dark horse you!) then definitely greet her with a kiss for the third date. She’ll be expecting it so if you don’t then she might be concerned about why that is, let’s start this deal-breaker date the right way shall we.

2) Pick a third date idea that will bring you closer

Taking her to the movies or cooking dinner for her is a great way to spend a lot of time in close proximity to each other. It’s for this reason that I don’t recommend things like drinks or group activities. You want to be alone and close (physically) to build the sexual chemistry a little and you absolutely have to make the most of this situation you’ve created… see next tip 😉

3) Be tactile

It’s not too soon to hold hands on the third date, physical contact is such a key part of feeling content around someone. If you’re out in public on a date then grab her hand (not as aggressively as that may sound though ;)) and you’ll make your intentions clear to her by doing so. If you’re driving somewhere then rest your ‘spare’ hand on her thigh, you’d be surprised how being tactile can make a woman feel wanted and this is exactly what you want if you’re looking to take things to the next level.

If you go to a movie for your third date, try to relax and make her feel relaxed. In my experience, it is the girl that usually makes the move to cozy up to her date in situations like this. All you have to do is go with the flow. You can simply hold each other or be in each other’s hands and enjoy a little cuddle. Don’t go overboard.

4) Make her feel comfortable

If you decide to treat her to a lovely homemade meal, try to make your home as comfortable as possible. Make sure the place is neat and tidy and that you are both alone and can go on to enjoy each other’s company without any external interference. You need to be a gentleman and make her feel very safe in your home. Don’t be too forward in trying to get intimate with her. If she wants it, she will give you all the signs you need and you can proceed slowly.

If you choose another third date then you can make her feel comfortable by simply greeting her with a kiss (tip #1) and offering to take her coat. Ask her how her day has been and then you can both relax into conversation naturally.

5) Pick up the bill/check

If you go on a date that requires paying for anything, please pay everything in full. This is not the time to go Dutch. This is not the time for her to be concerned about your finances. I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to this sort of thing and maybe that’s a fault but I think a man should pay for dates in the early stages. I believe it sends the wrong signals if you start to share bills at this stage.

6) Flirt with her

You’ve probably kissed by this stage so if you haven’t started already, show her your cheeky side. It is alright to make little flirtatious comments and compliments about her body and how she looks at this point. It signifies to her that you are interested in her sexually and it is a subtle way of making your intentions known to her. You can also gauge her interest from how she responds to your compliments. If she looks genuinely happy to be complimented in that way then she is interested in you but if she shrugs it off as something she hears every other day from every other guy then perhaps you’ll need to up your game to set yourself apart from the competition!

7) Keep your manners in check

You must not get too comfortable at this point and relax your manners. It is fine to be yourself but you still need to be your best self at all times during the third date. If you get too comfortable she might assume the worst so leave it beyond reasonable doubt that you are the gentleman that you appear to be.

8) Take a photo together

If this really is to be make or break then nothing screams good intentions like your first selfie together. If you’re having a great time together then why not capture the moment? You can send it onto her after the date when you tell her what an amazing time you had again.

9) Be chivalrous throughout

If you’ve read some of my other posts and in particular this one on chivalry then you’ll know how important I think it is to be a perfect gentleman. Chivalry comes in many forms, from pulling out her chair & taking her coat from her to holding open doors and walking her to her car, you need to be doing it all, and not just sporadically.

Also falling into the category of chivalry is not assuming you’re going to have sex at the third date stage. I’m not suggesting that you cool things off if the date makes this unexpected but welcome turn, however, I wouldn’t go looking for it as nine times out of ten you’re going to be a couple of dates too early (see this post on how many dates before sleeping together).

Best not to ruin things by getting carried away here, you’ve come a long way and are clearly into her so bide your time. Just put these third date tips into practice and you’ll be right on track to progressing this into something a little more serious.

Remember, good things come to those who wait.

Happy Dating,

The Frequent Dater

2 comments

  • #6 + #7 + #9 = perfect formula! Totally get cheeky on Date Number Three. That way she can know what you’re thinking and let you know, nicely, whether she’s ready to commence docking procedure or needs another date or two without it getting awkward. By keeping your manners in check you’ll not be so aggressive that she’s turned off and she won’t be a bitch about saying no. I’d never thought of the first selfie thing but that is a GREAT way for you both to send a message that things are going well and a great memento to look back on later on in your relationship.

  • The Frequent Dater

    Thanks for your comments Hannah! It’s great to be a little cheeky but you have to stay respectful. Nobody want to spoil it when they get to date 3 do they! 🙂

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